Allow the feeling to crash over you and then recede in it's own time.
The feelings of grief are so powerful that we fear they will sweep us away, but if we hold fast and allow them to happen, the pain is intense, but then it eases off and we are still there.
In time we stop fearing the arrival of the feeling and just allow it to happen. And we survive it.
Kim said it perfectly. I've learned over the past years not to fight the feelings, but Iearned the lesson through tears and bad days. The losses don't diminish, but they won't diminish you either. They become part of you as you take them in, and it's not a bad thing really. The missing is a way of honoring the lost ones and keeping them close.
But it isn't always so intense, and there is breathing room and laughter and music as much as there are the powerful feelings you talk about ... all of it, woven together in the complexity of being alive.
Grief is a heavy load and awkward to carry. Allowing yourself the time it takes to do the job properly is part of it, I think. Be nice to you, my friend.
Do the chant. Oommmmm. Ooommmm. Throw up a post. Dig your heels in. Tell those mothers that you're not a rugby pitch and to get the hell off.
ReplyDeleteUB; You make me smile, even through the tears! Thanks my friend. :¬)
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ReplyDeleteClyde; It's hard sometimes pal. But I do manage.
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ReplyDeletesav; Thanks missus. Sometimes Bubba just gets overwhelemed by the loss!
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Allow the feeling to crash over you and then recede in it's own time.
ReplyDeleteThe feelings of grief are so powerful that we fear they will sweep us away, but if we hold fast and allow them to happen, the pain is intense, but then it eases off and we are still there.
In time we stop fearing the arrival of the feeling and just allow it to happen. And we survive it.
You're allowed to feel human.
ReplyDeleteGo ahead. There are plenty of hugs here left to make you feel better when you're ready.
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ReplyDeleteKim said it perfectly. I've learned over the past years not to fight the feelings, but Iearned the lesson through tears and bad days. The losses don't diminish, but they won't diminish you either. They become part of you as you take them in, and it's not a bad thing really. The missing is a way of honoring the lost ones and keeping them close.
ReplyDeleteBut it isn't always so intense, and there is breathing room and laughter and music as much as there are the powerful feelings you talk about ... all of it, woven together in the complexity of being alive.
We are all with you, Stew
here, let me help - take my hand - and shake them off -
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Grief is a heavy load and awkward to carry. Allowing yourself the time it takes to do the job properly is part of it, I think. Be nice to you, my friend.
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